What pills will help a man with Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation – when a man has an orgasm sooner than expected – can be very distressing. It can cause men to lose confidence in their sexual abilities, and it can even contribute to feelings of depression and a low mood.
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a complex topic. Society, porn and the media show us that men should aspire to stamina that makes penetrative sex last as long as possible. The truth is more complex. Some women prefer endurance-length sex sessions. Others prefer men to orgasm quickly. Often, from penetration to orgasm, men don’t last as long as porn would make us believe. But then, porn is acting and largely made up. However, although we are talking about a sliding scale, there is a difference between achieving orgasm quickly and having a premature ejaculation.
What is premature ejaculation (PE)?
For a start, any women researching this on behalf of a partner, or any men wanting an answer to this question should know that this isn’t defined as a one-off event. If a man achieves orgasm sooner than expected, or sooner than usual – and of course everyone is different (and this changes over time) – and this only happens once or twice, then it’s usually not PE. Doctors define PE as one or more symptoms happening often enough over a 6-month period. Something that happens often enough to cause a man concern, and therefore something worth finding a cure for, or combing a series of cures to get a man’s sex life back to what he – and his partner – wants. Premature ejaculation is defined by a number of factors. Firstly, a man feels as though he’s got no control anymore over when ejaculation. This could be during penetrative sex, masturbation, oral sex, or any other kind of sexual activity. A man will notice the difference between sex that used to last 10 minutes or ejaculating 30 seconds after penetration. A partner will too, and this can cause emotional stress for a man in the context of a relationship, and it can reduce his confidence levels.
Secondly, a key part of understanding premature ejaculation is the speed at which a man loses control over his ability to ejaculate. If this happens before a man is fully erect, shortly after, soon after penetration, or early into starting any other sexual activity (including masturbation), then it could be a sign that someone is suffering from premature ejaculation. Loss of control and ejaculation happening sooner than expected, and both factors happening at once, over a 6-month period, are clear signs that a man is suffering from premature ejaculation.
What impact can premature ejaculation have on men and couples?
For men, this can cause panic and stress. It can make a man feel ‘less of a man’, and for older men, it can feel like a scary and uncomfortable part of the aging process. Something they probably never expected to happen to them. Whereas for younger men, who usually take a certain amount of pride from sexual vigor, stamina and accomplishments, this can be as embarrassing as not being able to get an erection. It can be difficult for women to deal with too. Not only could this be taken as a sign that something is wrong with the relationship, a woman can struggle to comfort a man other something she might not have expected to happen either. For both parties, this is something that causes stress, anxiety. If it happens more than once, or keeps happening, then fairly quickly a cycle of performance related anxiety can revolve around sex. A man might not want to have sex anymore, for fear of this happening, and a woman might struggle to find a solution that works so that a healthy sex life can resume. Similar to erectile dysfunction, this can lead to a break down in emotional and physical intimacy, causing arguments, estrangement and even breakups. One way or another, to avoid the risk of a long-term loss of sexual confidence, and damage to a man’s mental health and a relationship, a cause and solution should be found for this problem.
What can cause premature ejaculation?
It can have a number of triggers, and thankfully, a number of cures.
Men can have this issue for a number of reasons. Masturbation is healthy and normal, but ejaculating too often during this can result in the same happening during sex. Having anxiety about sexual performance – perhaps as a result of other anxieties and stresses in life – can cause this problem. Not having sex for a while can also cause this. Or trying a new sexual experience, or something that a man maybe isn’t comfortable with, can also cause premature ejaculation.
What can cure premature ejaculation?
There are a wide number of solutions, including talking to a therapist, a sex therapist if that would be useful, physical exercises – with and without a partner – and a number of pills can contribute towards putting a solution in place. Seeking help from a therapist or Psychosexual Therapist is certainly one way to solve this. Talking to a professional about any underlying causes might be easier than trying to work things out with a partner or alone. This way, you gain the benefits of someone who’s probably treat others with this issue and knows how to find solutions that work. Pills are another option too. For those who don’t want or feel comfortable talking about this, there are a number of pills that can help delay orgasm. Although there are no ‘premature ejaculation delay pills’, there are several others that one of the side-effects is a delayed orgasm, and therefore, a solution to this particular problem. Don’t be concerned that these side-effects aren’t FDA approved, everything outlined below has been found to work for some men (it might be a case of testing a few different things to find what works for you), as there are many drugs on the market that although they’re designed for one thing have a number of uses, such as delaying orgasm. Alongside pills and therapy, there are a range of sexual techniques that can be tried with a partner and alone; and these should help delay orgasm with enough practice.
Here are a number of things worth trying to reduce the chance of premature ejaculation:
- Masturbate a few hours before sex. This way, there is a reduced chance of premature ejaculation during sex.
- Mindfulness and meditation. Find ways to focus on the here-and-now, on breathing, of staying in the moment and using these techniques during sex.
- Talking to a partner about their sexual worries and performance anxieties. Sometimes, instead of staying silent and often sullen about such topics, talking about it reduces the stress for both partners and can result in the problem being solved. Even combining this with a joint (couples) Psychosexual Therapist session could go a long way towards fixing this.
- Try the ‘edging’ technique during sex. Stopping and starting, getting a man close to orgasm, then pausing for long enough to get under control again, and then resuming sex. There are countless porn videos that can help a man train for improved stamina and taking himself to the edge of orgasm and back again. Might be worth searching for them and giving it a go.
- Another technique is where a partner squeezes the tip of a mans penis for 10 seconds. These short breaks should reduce the risk of premature ejaculation. A man can also do this alone to try and improve stamina himself before involving a partner, thereby regaining some level of confidence before anything sexual happens again.
- An exercise a man can do, during the day, at any time, should also help: Pelvic floor exercises, also known as Kegel exercises. Men should focus on making their pelvic floor muscle tighter. Repeating these 3 times a day, either sitting, standing, or walking.
- For women looking for a solution for this for their partner; maybe you’ve noticed that a man climaxes sooner than expected when certain positions are tried. Take control and instead of jumping to these positions that excite your partner more than others, wait until closer to the time when you want him to orgasm, then switch to that position. This way, he should last longer and you both get to enjoy sex as much as you ever did.
- There are condoms, sprays and creams that can also reduce the risk of premature ejaculation. Anything that numbs the tip is worth trying as this should stop a man achieving orgasm quickly, making the pleasure last longer and giving a man back some much-needed sexual confidence, which in itself should contribute to a healthier and better long-term sex life.
- If none of the above solutions works, or none of them are working as well as hoped, pills are the best course of action. Pills such as those designed to treat erectile dysfunction can also reduce the chance of PE occurring (such as Viagra and Revatio). In other cases, certain antidepressants can delay orgasm, such as escitalopram (Lexapro), sertraline (Zoloft), paroxetine (Paxil) or fluoxetine (Prozac, Sarafem). Tramadol (Ultram), used to treat pain, can also delay orgasm.
Although none of the pills listed above – and there are others worth checking out in the same medicine groups (providing they have the same active ingredients) – are FDA approved to cure premature ejaculation, they are all known for helping a man delay an orgasm. Before taking anything not prescribed by a doctor, it’s always worth checking for other side-effects, even when you are looking to gain a benefit of one of the side effects. Make sure what you are taking is right for you within the overall context of your physical and mental health, and if in doubt, speak to a doctor about your problem and why you want pills to help solve it.
Searching for the right choice of pills through 7DayPharmacy is a good way to find something suitable to help find a solution for this and regain the sex life that you and your partner really want and deserve.